Well, apart from the fact that he has an ASBO and goes out drinking every night, yeah he’s alright.
I flipping hate this question, is he good? What does this mean? How can a baby not be good?
‘Oh, I meant does he sleep well at night?’
Ooooh of course! I forgot, a baby who doesn’t sleep all night means they’re naughty!
Babies generally don’t sleep ‘well.’ And if you’re associating being ‘good’ with a baby sleeping at night then that must mean most babies are ‘bad’.
Freddie, funnily enough, sleeps like a baby. You know, he wakes up sometimes for a snack (boob) or a cuddle or a play and then he will sleep again when he’s ready. Sort of like adults, we wake up for a drink, sometimes we may even read a book or watch some TV as we cannot sleep. So why is it okay for adults to do this but if a baby does it, they must be ‘bad’!?
Why must you insist that my baby is either ‘good’ or ‘bad’? He’s neither, he’s just a baby.
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Love this it’s so true. Babies dont know how to be good or bad. I think a better question is are they a happy baby? He looks very happy 🙂
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Freddie is adorable. I love his eyes!
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Well said. My 8 month old has yet to progress passed 1-2 hourly wakings… that doesn’t make her naughty, just a boob monster on a mission to kill me with sleep deprivation! lol
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I agree with Bear & Cardigan’s comment – it should really be “have you got a happy baby” – I never thought about the term “good” and it’s not a statement that I’ve questioned before. It’s actually a “throwaway” statement – I’d answer “yes” even if little one had been awake all night! Even asking “happy” may be upsetting if your baby is crying constantly through colic etc
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Oh isn’t this the most annoying question ever!!!! Everything you said is so true. Any behaviours or patterns they have is because they are baby. They are neither good or bad x
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It’s really annoying isn’t it – I dislike that question, my daughter has silent reflux and woke frequently at night – but she wasn’t a bad baby – sleep-wise or otherwise. I really don’t see how a baby can be bad?
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All babies are good. They are just communicating with us when They cry.
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I always think this too. What an odd question to ask. Who’s actually going to answer “no, he’s evil!”
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Oh I hate that question so much. I’ve been asked it so often in the first year of Blake’s life that I’ve lost count. To be honest who is going to say no?
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People just think they need to say something all the time…sometimes it is best to just shut up
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I’m a full believer in all babies being good! The only question that should be asked when it comes to babies is about their (and their mom’s) happiness.
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I get to hear that all the time. How is she? Is she good? How good is good? She wakes up at night sometimes. Who cares. I’m going in putting dodie in and back to sleep. Could be worth. There’s no good or bad in a baby.
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I know it is so strange to call a baby naughty when they don’t know right from wrong. It is not naughty that they wake up its called not settling into a routine but some people don’t get that!
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Who cares if he is ‘good’ – He is blinking gorgeous! Those eyes would melt anyone’s heart.
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Now this is a good point, how do you know right from wrong unless someone tells you or teaches you? x
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I love this post and your words are so so true! But I also think its just a natural question for us to ask as humans too “Aww is he/she good for you”? I know I’ve caught myself doing it sometimes, lol. #blogsleeprepeat
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Good point. Maybe people should think before they speak, more like does he sleep well…not is he good. I too hate labels and like you say he’s not naughty just if his sleeping is tricky. Great post. Angela
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Well he certainly doesn’t look like a bad baby:) I have had people ask me this question too!
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It’s really interesting. I’m probably guilty of asking this and I have three kids so should know better, especially as one was certainly not ‘good’ (and at 3 years old still isn’t!) at sleeping!!
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We used to joke that Jaxon would slide down the drainpipe outside his room and go for a party with all the other babies in the vicinity. I do get asked “Is he a good baby?” and I say “Of course he is well apart from….” usually something silly that a baby can’t really achieve unless they were Stewie from Family Guy or Jack Jack from The Incredibles. Guess it’s one of those silly questions that people just ask without thinking.
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Haha I totally get this. That said, it’s just words so it doesn’t bother me. My three year old has picked up on the phrase now and always answers for us – “well I am sometimes!”
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Lol thats so cute! Haha x
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Very interesting. Thanks for posting.
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The ridiculous questions people ask sometimes!!1 Really?! Your child is lovely!
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I think people speak for the sake of speaking sometimes!! Is she good? How are ye getting on? Redic questions!! I would be saying How are you mammy? Would you like some help- what can i do? How is baby settling? Never a question that will make that parent feel like shite!! ha xx
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i agree babies are neither good or bad and their sleep shouldn’t dictate one for the other people just love to judge
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That’s a very lovely point. Why the hell not, if we are doing it, it’s not bad if they do it. I think it’s just the drowsiness speaking from our side. But hey, we should think about how our babies feel too.
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He’s really cute, he is very lovely baby boy.
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I used to hate labeling my babies as good or bad. None of mine really slept that well but they fed well and developed at a good pace. Each baby is unique as they are individuals, like we are as adults. He’s such a cutie!
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Here in Ireland everyone asks that question to people with new babies, the easiest thing to reply is – “yes he’s great!”. I don’t think anyone means it as an offensive thing…
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This is a very nice blog you have some point here. Of course its not on sleeping habit, that’s crazy way to judge a good or bad baby is. Whats important is his condition and health. I’m sure Freddie is a good baby. He looks very adorable.
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You make such a good point! People don’t actually use the word good for anyone other than children it seems! x
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Such an adorable blue eyes baby. Don’t mind them and don’t listen. Every babies are good, I think asking if he’s a good boy I think it’s kind a rude.
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By the time I had my third child, I was ready for this question. All 3 of my babies were fussy, so my answer always was “Nope, but she sure is fun!” 🙂
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Love that response!
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I have had 6 children and each one different. I have had the chilled out one, nosey one, into everything inquisitive one, lazy one but none were every naughty!!
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Wow he is so adorable, I had a one little son he is also naughty, that’s why I love being mom because it was fun.
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I would hate that too if someone would ask me about my baby. It’s just an awkward question to ask.
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I really like this post and it actually made me think twice about asking that question. I never looked at it in the way in which you have described it.
Your completely right, just because a baby may not sleep through certainly doesn’t make him/her bad or naughty. Thanks for the insight BlogSleepRepeat
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I’m someone who is guilty for asking if a baby is “good” but it’s because I don’t know anything about babies or what else to ask! haha 😛
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He is so adorable. I have always hated that question as well. All babies are good.
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So true!
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haha yup – I remember finding that question bit bizarre!
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Silly question. It doesn’t make sense why anyone would ask you if a baby is good or bad.
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what a beautiful baby and yes they are good , good at doing what they do best being a baby its up to you to choose to love them the way they are
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Ughh drives me nuts when people try saying babies are bad! They are babies! Like they know that being quiet is a good thing.
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Sometimes people are put in a situation where they need a conversation starter with a parent and that is all “is he a good baby” is meant to be. It is a way for you to enthuse positively about your lovely child to someone who might not have any experience with children. I don’t think anybody is trying to insinuate a child is bad when they say this.
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I really hated whenever anyone asked me that question about either of my babies. Babies have many needs and cannot care for themselves. People need to stop judging and leave moms alone when it comes to raising children.
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He is so cute… I totally feel that its inappropriate question. All babies are different
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AWW he is gorgeous! that little jumpsuit hes wearing is everything! i think its hard to judge what makes a baby. a baby,is a baby, theyre so new to this world and trying to learn our ways so sometimes i guess they act out,doesnt mean theyre bad
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