Fergie recently released a song called MILF $. Now, I personally love everything about this song and this video and let me tell you why.
A few scenes into the video there is a gorgeous woman breastfeeding her baby. Now this woman looks HOT and you’d be daft to deny the fact that she looks good. She’s also quite clearly wearing false eyelashes and lots of make up and she even has her legs out *shock horror*. Surely a mum shouldn’t have her legs out?! Ofcourse not. *sarcasm*
There has been huge controversy about this all over breastfeeding facebook groups. Lots of mums are saying it’s wrong and that it’s sexualising breastfeeding. Well, this is what I say…
There’s nothing wrong with a sexy woman breastfeeding. There IS something wrong with sexualising breasts and only seeing them as a sex object instead of seeing them as multi functional.
It’s a fact that a lot of men find breastfeeding attractive. Not because there’s a baby on the boob but because it’s attractive to see a mother nurture her children. And this video also helps the breastfeeding cause by showing that breast feeders aren’t all hippies with long armpit hair who hug trees (ofcourse there’s nothing wrong with that) and that any female can breastfeed no matter what your ‘style’.
I think if a man saw this video too it may make him realise that breastfeeding is normal and women can still be sexy whilst breastfeeding and will help them support their female partners to breastfeed.
All we ever see about breastfeeding on the media is bad things or hippies or mums who never leave their kids.
If we want more mums to breastfeed we need to make it work for every mum and show that even modern day parents can and breastfeed too.
You don’t have to fit into a certain mould to breastfeed your kid. All you need is your boobs. It doesn’t matter what clothes you wear, how much make up you wear or how sexy you are. You kid doesn’t give a shit about that, he just wants his milk.
Every parent is different but there is no reason why all mums who can breastfeed shouldn’t (unless they make that decision not to ofcourse).
The media and Facebook groups are telling us that if you want to breastfeed then you must be a middle age woman with no sex life, you must buy really fucking ugly nursing bras and you must never leave your child’s side. And there is nothing wrong with all of the above if that makes you happy.
So ofcourse young mums, fashion and make up conscious mums, sexual mums and outgoing mums who need space every now and then won’t breastfeed as they think it’s not for them and they don’t fit into the mould.
It’s such a shame because I reckon if we made breastfeeding more versatile and fitting for all mums then more mums would breastfeed.
Newsflash, you can be 16 and breastfeed your baby, wear a sexy nursing bra (they do exist!) And express milk for your baby if you want to leave them for a few hours (recommended age for doing this is over 6 weeks). It is possible and breastfeeding is adaptable to every single situation out there!