- It’s okay to co sleep, your baby might not settle in their moses basket and that’s perfectly normal. Here are the co sleeping safety guidelines.
- You have a choice. You don’t HAVE to be induced, you don’t HAVE to have a hospital birth, you don’t HAVE to do x,y,z.
- Cluster feeding is normal when breastfeeding. Your baby has a tiny tiny stomach so feeding every 10 minutes is normal. Tiring. But normal.
- It’s normal for your baby to wake up often. Babies take a while to adjust to day time and night time. Waking up often lowers the risk of SIDs.
- It’s okay to feel emotional. Baby blues can last longer than 3-5 days. If you’re still emotional after a couple of weeks then tell a health care professional.
- Instinct has been around longer than a book. Trust your instinct, always.
- If you have had children before then you may get worse after pains.
- It’s okay to feel hungry all the time, you have just grown a baby for 9 months and now you are keeping it alive with your boobs. Eat all the food.
- It’s okay to say no to visitors. You don’t owe anyone anything. If people must visit then tell them to bring shopping and wash the dishes.
- Breastfeeding can be hard to begin with, but after a few weeks it’s completely worth it.
- You will sweat like a motherfucker. It’s fine.
- You might get piles. Don’t be embarrassed, just see a Dr asap to prescribe some cream and eat lots of fibre and drink lots of water.
- Keep baby close, skin to skin as much as possible, its okay to leave the chores to everyone else.
- Its okay to respond to your baby when they make the slightest whimper, your instinct is to pick them up and keep them near. Read more here.
- Breastfeeding isn’t just food.
- If bottle feeding, your baby should still drink little and often; not 6oz every 4 hours. They don’t need hungry baby milk. Read more here.
- You don’t have to have a sweep. You’re not a chimney.
- Your estimated due date is just that. They are not late and you don’t need to be induced or have a sweep and go to 4th base with the midwife if you go past the date, the due date was just wrong.
- Baby acne is normal. Just leave it.
- You don’t need to bath your baby as soon as the umbilical cord falls off. Babies don’t do anything to get them dirty enough for a bath. Waiting for up to 2 weeks (or longer) gives a chance for the vernix (the gooey white stuff they’re covered in) to soak into their skin.
- Skin to skin is so important and isn’t just something you should do after labour or if your breastfeeding. You can do it as much and as often as you want regardless of feeding method.
- There’s no such thing as overfeeding a breastfed baby.
- You DO have enough milk for your baby. The 2 main signs that you don’t have enough milk for your baby is no wet nappies and rapid weight loss/failure to thrive. (Although weight loss is normal after birth)
- If you have certain drugs in labour, such as IV fluids, then your baby’s birth weight may be inaccurate and may appear to have a big weight loss because of this. (Read here)
Was there anything you wish your midwife told you?
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